When we first started considering a service dog for our 8 year old daughter, we had no idea what to expect. We knew that a well-trained service dog could offer both practical assistance and emotional support, but the process of getting one felt overwhelming. Looking back, the journey was long, filled with paperwork, waiting, and training, but the end result was worth every step. If you’re considering a service dog for your medically complex child, here’s a glimpse into our experience, along with tips we wish we had known at the start.

Why We Pursued a Service Dog

My daughter, Malia, uses a wheelchair, is non-verbal and blind. We really just wanted her to have a friend, a companion. If the dog could pick up dropped toys and give them back to her, even better. I had seen the dogs with the blue vests, so I did my research. The more I read, the more I knew this was something we had to pursue. 

For us, a big motivator was social as well. With Malia not talking, nor able to make eye contact, people just don’t even really see her in public. I thought having a dog with her would draw much needed social interaction. We had seen stories of children whose lives had been transformed by service dogs, and we knew we had to explore this option.

The Application Process and Waiting 

Once we decided to move forward, we began researching organizations that provide service dogs to children with disabilities. We ultimately chose Canine Companions for Independence because we wanted the reliability of an excellent reputation, extensive, specialized training, and the back-up of having help available if there were ever any issues.

The application process was layered. There were stages of paperwork, interviews and meet and greets. One of the hardest parts was the solid two year wait period from application to matching. Another reason we started as early as we did. 

Matching Process 

When we finally got the call that we were now up to see if we matched with a dog, we were overjoyed. The training and matching process was one of the most intensive parts of this journey. We went to training in 2020, so ours was modified to allow for isolating, etc. We did a hybrid of online coursework and a shortened in person academy. 

Typically 2 weeks all together, our in-person was 9 days. The facility has rooms we all stayed in, classroom and training areas, and is highly specialized. Trainers consider personality, energy levels, and the child’s specific needs. Our dog, Kimi, was chosen because her energy fit my daughters need to have a companion who would be content to sit with her for long periods of time. 

Bonding. The first few days were spent learning commands, proper handling, and how to reinforce behaviors. There were about 8 individuals there with us for the training and matching, as well as several trainers and handlers. 

There were periods throughout where we interacted with the several dogs who were ready and presented for possible matching. One of the most surprising things we learned was how much work and preparation goes into preselecting possible dogs for matching with the people in our class. So much thought and care goes into every step.

Malia and Kimi bonded quickly, but there were also challenges. At first, I struggled with some of the commands and managing Kimi’s handling in public while also managing Malia’s wheelchair.  However, with patience and consistency, they developed a clear connection, and we figured out how to work together. 

The moment we knew this was truly life-changing was when the staff had all of the teams “compete” in an obedience obstacle course- off leash! Learning to trust the dog was as big a part as learning to lead her.

Life with a Service Dog

Since bringing Kimi home, daily life has changed in several ways. Some of the biggest benefits have been during hospitalizations. Just the coziness of having her dog lie on the bed with her and keep her company. 

One thing we hadn’t anticipated was that having the dog gave Malia a sense of having a responsibility. Kimi is a bit nervous, and Malia’s job is to help keep her relaxed during medical appointments. It actually works out well.

Of course, having a service dog also comes with responsibilities. We have to keep up with regular training, grooming, exercise, and recertifications. One of the biggest challenges for me has been having the additional responsibilities added on to our already extreme medical caregiving efforts. 

Final Thoughts & Advice for Other Families

Looking back, we are grateful we took this step. It wasn’t always easy, but the rewards have been immeasurable. If you’re considering a service dog for your child, here are a few pieces of advice:

• Do your research. Different organizations have different requirements, costs, and training styles.

• Prepare for the commitment. A service dog requires ongoing training and care.

• Be patient. The wait and training can be long, but the right match is worth it.

For anyone just starting this journey, know that while the process takes time, the impact of a well-matched service dog can be life-changing. Kimi has not only provided practical assistance but has also become a beloved member of our family.

Malia’s disabilities prevent her from participating in many age-appropriate activities. But the joy on her face—the sparkle in her eyes, the gleeful laughter—when her dog gets caught mid-mischief, whether swiping a sock or sneaking into a room when she shouldn’t, is absolutely priceless. 

In that moment, my very disabled daughter is delighting in a little rebellion, shared through an extension of herself.